Don’t Let Your Elderly Parents Become Victims of the Grandparent Scam
A recent client was concerned about guardianship scams and other news recently being circulated. It is a fair concern and she is being very wise to think about how this might affect her elderly parent. Scams are nothing new, but do you know how they work?
Imagine this… You are an elderly grandparent who lives alone.
You get a call in the middle of the night from your college-aged granddaughter. She’s frantic and crying, telling you she was mistakenly arrested while vacationing in Cancun.
She says she needs you to pay her $1,800 bond, or she’ll be transferred to a dangerous Mexican prison. The Mexican police told her she only has a few hours before she’s transferred, so she needs you to wire the money immediately.
She’s petrified about her parents finding out she was arrested and begs you not to tell them. Because she only has a couple of minutes to use the police station phone, the call ends abruptly before you can get any further details.
What do you do?
If you’re like the thousands of others (including me) who’ve gotten just such a call, you’d probably wire the money in a heartbeat. It is your grandchild’s life after all. However, just like the others, you’d soon find out that your granddaughter hasn’t been arrested and was never in Mexico.
The Grandparent Scam
Known as the Grandparent Scam, this con has been around for years, and while it may seem far fetched, it has tricked many caring seniors. And in recent months, there has been an uptick in the number of people falling prey to the deception.
The details can vary, but the scam typically works like this:
- You get a call from someone pretending to be your grandchild. The “grandchild” explains he or she is in trouble and needs money immediately. They might be in jail and need bond or be stranded in a foreign country and need money to get out.
- The caller asks you to wire money to a specific location or give it to a third party, usually someone posing as a lawyer or police officer.
- The “grandchild” will often plead with you not to tell their parents they’re in trouble.
- Once you send the money, the caller breaks off all contact, making it impossible to recover your funds.
Another variation asks for funds to help refugees, or to confirm the taxes on your lottery winnings, and more. The information they use to run the scam is usually posted right on Facebook or other social media. There, anyone can find the names of your family, where you live, and whether you are on vacation (because so many of us post pictures from our current vacation spot!)
Truth be known, my grandchildren actually live in Mexico, so this could be very hard to ignore at our house! But, like any scam, every call like this should be evaluated carefully. I’ve received half a dozen emails or phone calls with this general type of scam over the past few years, and of course, none of them has been real.
Preying on the vulnerable
While just about anyone can fall for such scams, the elderly are the ones targeted most often. This is due to the fact that seniors are frequently lonely and eager to hear from family. And whether it’s because their hearing is failing or because they haven’t seen their family members in a while, they’re more likely to not recognize voices.
Due to their advanced age, seniors are also less likely to think clearly in a crisis, making them more susceptible to fear and panic. Finally, the elderly are less familiar with technology and social media, so they don’t realize how easy it is to access enough of someone’s personal details to make the scenario seem realistic.
What to do
In most cases, the best course of action is to simply hang up and contact the authorities. However, if the caller really does sound like the family member they claim to be, here are some steps you can take to help verify the situation is legitimate:
- Don’t panic. It’s far easier to be deceived if you’re nervous or scared.
- Be wary of calls from unknown or blocked numbers. Ask to call them back on the person’s own phone, and never accept requests sent solely by email or text.
- Verify the caller’s identity by asking them questions only the actual person would know the answer to, such as the name of their first pet.
- Beware of urgent demands that money be sent immediately. Reputable sources don’t try to pressure you into making split-second financial decisions.
- Call other family and friends to verify where the person is. A reputable source will respect your caution and give you the opportunity to verify the facts.
- Requests for money to be wired are often scams, as it’s nearly impossible to get your money back in cases of fraud. Request a more secure transaction method, such as through a bank or PayPal. Legitimate sources are likely to offer multiple payment options.
Please share this article with any seniors in your life. There are countless other scams out there that work in much the same way, so even if it’s not this particular con, by becoming aware how these deceptions work, they’ll be much less likely to fall for them.
Of course, scams and cons are just one threat to seniors’ financial security. Without comprehensive estate planning, there are numerous other ways your family’s wealth and assets can be squandered or lost through financial abuse which have nothing to do with fraud.
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